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Growing up my father would watch 60 minutes every night. It is one of those things you remember from childhood that makes you reminisce, like the way your grandmother’s house smelled or the feeling of Christmas morning. Over the years there have been many changes to 60 minutes and one of my father’s favorite parts about the show recently ended. Andy Rooney’s segment was my Dad’s favorite and it would always make him chuckle. Andy Rooney and my father have both passed on but I can happily say I have some great memories and 60 minutes is still reporting on current news and doing me a solid.

“Playing God or removing disease from your blood line?” was the topic of Sunday night’s 60 minutes. It was a segment on PGD testing and how this amazing test has given people the opportunity to remove devastating diseases from the next generation. Mike and I did PGD testing because we are both carriers of cystic fibrosis, and there is a 1 in 4 chance our child would have CF, a debilitating and ultimately fatal disease.

The truth is, many people do not know if they are a carrier of a mutation until they try to have a child and get tested. We both had no idea and had never given any of this a thought until it became our reality. It’s a tough decision and there are religious as well as ethical arguments that go either way, but for us it was about starting a healthy family and we were going to do what we had to do to make that happen.

When one decides to do PGD testing they are given an option of testing for chromosomal defects (that result in diseases such as Downs syndrome or worse) as well. Mike and I went back and forth on this mainly because it was going to cost an extra $3,000 to get the added testing. Ultimately we chose to do the extra testing and in the long run were happy with that choice. We also chose to test for chromosomal defects because we did not want to go through all of this and then still have a baby with a different, and potentially preventable disease. Of course this testing is not 100% accurate but we have significantly lessened the chances of that happening.

There is an argument that PGD can be taken too far.  Along with testing for disease, couples have the ability to choose their child’s hair/eye color or a number of other traits including gender. I personally do not believe in using PGD for these reasons. I feel that PGD should be used to prevent disease and nothing else. Though I do not mean to offend anyone who chooses PGD for those reasons.

I’m happy that 60 minutes has taken the time to address infertility and the struggle so many people face. Assisted reproductive technologies may not be important to some, it may even offend them, but the fact is 1 in 8 couples struggle with infertility. Many of these couples struggle in silence and it’s important to educate the rest of the population.

Dr. Hughes said it perfectly on 60 minutes:

“We all throw genetic dice when we have children. But when you know the dice are loaded and that there’s a really reasonable chance that your baby will have an incurable, dreadful condition, you’re looking for an alternative.”

To view the video or read the article head HERE

 

XO

 

The Truth about the Two Week Wait.

First of all it’s not actually two weeks. Most people baby dance and then two weeks later they take a test to find out if they are pregnant or not. We obviously didn’t baby dance, we transferred on a Tuesday and I got a very faint positive on Sunday, 5 days later.  MasterCard would say something like this:

IVF: $$$

IVF with PGD:$$$$$$$

Being able to get pregnancy results after 5 days: PRICELESS.

We could not be more excited and blessed to have received this amazing news! Almost a year to the date of when we went to see my regular OB after trying for a year unsuccessfully we received our BFP! (big fat positive) It’s been a long crazy year and we are by no means out of the woods yet, but we got a BFP!

BUT let’s be honest about the two week wait…we were stressed out, read other people’s instagram accounts/blogs and took a pregnancy test everyday starting on day 5 but we didn’t blog.

We didn’t post or blog during this time and the decision not to do so was a tough one. We started the blog and it was private, to update our close friends and family about our IVF with PGD journey. Once we made the blog public, people from all walks of our life found it and started supporting us.

As you can imagine, when you take a pregnancy test and you’re essentially 5 days pregnant and it’s positive, posting about it on a blog and telling everyone you know is a little scary!  We wanted to be open and honest to this process but we were also hesitant and scared of what was to come.  Basically, our pregnancy test could have been positive and our beta (blood HCG test) could have been really low.  Essentially meaning we did not have a viable pregnancy.

So we chickened out and decided to document the two week wait but not actually blog about it until after. However, I’d like to give a shout out to @lisaivfjourney and many others on instagram for posting pictures of their tests each day because we stalked them and compared our pictures to theirs. 🙂 Thanks for being stronger than us and putting yourselves out there.

Here is what our two week wait looked like:

5 & 6 Days Past our 5 Day Transfer

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7 &8 Days Past our 5 Day Transfer

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9&10 Days Past our 5 Day Transfer

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Crazy people, we know.

So that’s what we’ve been doing every morning for the past two weeks.  Our 1st beta (blood test to determine how much HCG is in your blood stream) was on Friday morning and it was 173.

Our 2nd beta is tomorrow am. They say your beta should double every 48 hours so ours should be around 700 tomorrow. Fingers, toes and everything else crossed for that.

thanks

 

Keeping Busy.

So I have a cold… and this is what this week has looked like.

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Many women, whether they are infertile or not, go through the glorious time period known as the two week wait. It’s hard to keep your mind off of the impending day (Friday) when we will go take a blood test to determine if we are pregnant or not. We decided to take the planning of keeping busy out of our hands and turn it into a little game. We wrote activities on popsicle sticks and when we were bored or stressed we picked one out and did whatever it said…

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My favorite was baking a pie. I don’t bake…but Mike does. 🙂

The next time I write we will be updating you with the results from our blood test and beta (hcg level). Thanks again for all of your support. xo